If you’re neurodivergent (or know someone who is) here are some simple yet loving statements that could positively transform your relationships.
You could even use them when you’re talking to yourself!
1. “Let me know if you can do (X), but no pressure!”
Having friends and people in our lives who can adjust their expectations and be understanding of our needs day to day can be such a relief.
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2. “You’re so funny / unique / talented / brave.”
Having our positive traits validated is so life affirming and can counteract negative self-talk. If other people are saying it we’re more likely to say it to ourselves too.
3. ” Wow you cleaned the bathroom / did the laundry, well done!”
Some of us can find tasks that NT people consider “easy” incredibly difficult so receiving praise for these “little” things is so lovely.
4. “What do you need to feel more comfortable in this situation?”
We don’t always feel confident advocating for reasonable adjustments or access needs so it’s nice when someone else opens the door to that conversation.
5. “You seem a bit stressed / overwhelmed. Is there anything I can do to help?”
Asking for help doesn’t always come naturally and sometimes we don’t even realise we’re stressed or struggling until it’s too late. Having someone to gently offer support in times of need can make a huge difference. We might need something that’s not the neurotypical solution too. e.g. space instead of a hug, so it’s good to ask for the specifics of what we need.
Which is your favourite? Let me know in the comments 👇
If you’d like support with better communicating your feelings and needs then I’d love to invite you to book a spiritual life coaching session with me – your first one is free!
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