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Birthday reflections (of a 30 something, Autistic Witch who’s been to hell and back).

Cosmic Kat

It was my birthday in January. I’m now 32! ✨🎈❤️

I once thought I wouldn’t live to see my 30s so now that I’m here it’s such a gift.

In my 20s if I wasn’t actively trying to kill myself, I was thinking about it.

I numbed my pain with alcohol and work and dating.

I thought external success would bring me happiness but when I got the “dream” job as a journalist for a national newspaper, I felt miserable.

Me, aged 18; a university student suffering from depression & alcoholism

I travelled to beautiful places but the depression snuck in with my luggage and came along for the ride.

I fell in love multiple times but with people who didn’t love me back.

I wanted escape but the truth was I couldn’t escape myself.

My life was running on auto-pilot, driven by the subconscious belief of “I’m not enough.”

When I finally hit rock bottom and burnout I was forced to stop running, turn inward and face myself.

Me in my 30s; a fully awakened Witch who loves herself



As I embarked on my Witchcraft and “mother wound” healing journey I used different modalities to support my holistic wellbeing in mind, body and spirit: Tarot, crystals, coaching & breathwork to name a few.

I learned to love myself, practice self-compassion, go inwards and honour the light AND the shadow.

I stopped saying “yes” when I meant “no.”
I stopped trying to be someone I’m not.
I got off the treadmill of “survival mode” and for the first time started to truly enjoy my life.

I embraced Mother Earth and let her heal me on long walks in the forest.
I did things that scared and excited me (like stand up comedy).
I attracted my soulmate.

Getting my autism diagnosis aged 30 was yet another awakening; an opportunity to further know myself on a deeper level and shed all of the false masks I’d been wearing in order to fit in and appear “normal.”

I’m living proof that miracles can happen when you stop trying to change the external and instead focus on your inner world first.

If you’re struggling right now, I want you to know that you’re not alone.

Things can and do change, it sometimes just takes a little bit of time.

My birthday has been and gone but here is my special gift to you: a free spiritual life coaching session.

If you resonate with any aspect of my story, I would love to support you at this point on your journey.

Find out more about my other offerings here.

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Five phrases that feel like a warm hug to neurodivergent womxn

Cosmic Kat

 

If you’re neurodivergent (or know someone who is) here are some simple yet loving statements that could positively transform your relationships.

You could even use them when you’re talking to yourself!

1. “Let me know if you can do (X), but no pressure!”

Having friends and people in our lives who can adjust their expectations and be understanding of our needs day to day can be such a relief.
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2. “You’re so funny / unique / talented / brave.”


Having our positive traits validated is so life affirming and can counteract negative self-talk. If other people are saying it we’re more likely to say it to ourselves too.

3. ” Wow you cleaned the bathroom / did the laundry, well done!”


Some of us can find tasks that NT people consider “easy” incredibly difficult so receiving praise for these “little” things is so lovely.

4. “What do you need to feel more comfortable in this situation?”

We don’t always feel confident advocating for reasonable adjustments or access needs so it’s nice when someone else opens the door to that conversation.

5. “You seem a bit stressed / overwhelmed. Is there anything I can do to help?”

Asking for help doesn’t always come naturally and sometimes we don’t even realise we’re stressed or struggling until it’s too late. Having someone to gently offer support in times of need can make a huge difference. We might need something that’s not the neurotypical solution too. e.g. space instead of a hug, so it’s good to ask for the specifics of what we need.


Which is your favourite? Let me know in the comments 👇

If you’d like support with better communicating your feelings and needs then I’d love to invite you to book a spiritual life coaching session with me – your first one is free!