life

Change is inevitable yet it can’t be forced.
We all need to grow but each person does so at their own rate.

There may be times in our lives when we wish time would speed up so we can skip over a difficult or challenging chapter.

And there may be times when we wish the clock would slow down so we could have more time with our loved ones or we’re having the time of our lives and we just don’t want it to end.

I’ve spent a lot of my own life being frustrated at my perceived stagnation, desperately wanting things to move forward, for my life to “begin” as I measured myself against my peers who seemed to be moving on, growing up and achieving success in a way that I wasn’t.

And even on my healing journey there were times when I was trying to force a breakthrough, operating from the belief that I was broken and needed to be fixed ASAP.

Society, our families and institutions can all condition us to believe that there is a specific or optimal timeline we should be living by.

E.g. Buying a house by 30
Kids before age 40
Retirement by 70

But I believe in a creator and I believe in divine timing and as such I believe that we’re all uniquely crafted and designed to find our own path. Our soul came here on a mission to EXPERIENCE whatever that looks like, whether it’s straightforward or messy.

And to experience we must learn to enjoy the journey rather than hastening ahead to a specific destination.

Another lesson I’ve learnt is that the beauty of life happens when we’re not “trying” to make anything happen.

It’s those moments when we can be truly present and enjoy cuddling the dog in bed.
It’s the laughter and a moment of connection between two friends.
It’s a candyfloss sunset.
A grasshopper that you spy on a wall.
Your partner saying “I love you.”

I leave you with an affirmation I return to often when I need to cultivate a little patience…
“The slower I go, the faster I grow.” 🪴

Let me know in the comments something that you’re grateful for in your life right now.

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What is your comfort zone? How do you step out of it?

For some people challenging themselves might mean going out more, meeting new people, trying a new hobby or visiting a new place.

But recently I’ve realised that for me it means taking things down a notch, slowing the pace and allowing myself to CHILL.

I’m most comfortable living life at a pace of 100 mph.

Never content with just sitting still, I always have to be doing something whether it’s discovering aerial hoop classes, dancing, going out with friends, writing a song, writing a book, studying something or pushing myself to a new limit.

But what inevitably happens is that I take on too much, get stressed, panic about the amount of things I have to do and then realise I’ve got no one to blame for it but myself.

zen cat smokey — My cat Smokey teaching me how to be zen

It all boils down to finding the right balance in life – something which may seem difficult to do but is actually incredibly simple.

Now every time I do something I need to ask myself – Why am I doing this?

Am I doing a dance class because I think I need to lose weight or because I enjoy it?

Am I writing a blog because I want likes and followers or because I want to help others?

Am I reading a book/article because it’s on a topic I feel I should know more about or one that I’m genuinely interested in?

When we examine the motives behind our actions we get to the core of what’s going on.

For me it’s usually pride, self-doubt, fear and perfectionism.

Deep down part of me still thinks I’m not good enough and therefore have to prove myself to the world.

But I don’t and neither do you.

So today, have a rest, put your feet up, take 10 minutes to meditate, read a celebrity magazine, watch TV or do a crossword – whatever makes you happy.

We don’t need to constantly grasp for something to make us whole.

We can be liberated from our negative self-talk and the shoulds, and coulds, and “need to” statements.

Everything we need is within.

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Embrace Change: Bloom at Your Own Pace

Stepping out of your comfort zone, stepping into balance